It ain’t over til the fat lady sings

On this resurrection weekend it got me to thinking of how the death and resurrection on Christ is symbolic of many areas of our lives. In life and marriage there are times when you will be misunderstood, wrongly accused and persecuted but If you stand firm on your faith there is light at the end. In marriages sometimes the wear and tear of life can take a toll and can make one or both of you feel like throwing in the towel.

But it doesn’t have to be over, sometimes you may need to take some time to remind yourselves of all the good times. Weigh the pros and cons and be honest – this is the person you loved enough to marry, you committed to spend the rest of your life with. You entered into a covenant and you trusted and believed that you could make it through life together.

Even in the face of infidelity, misunderstandings, and emotional distance your relationship can be resurrected. A marriage that is based on the foundation of Christ can survive anything. Christ called us to love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

The afteraffects of life on a relationship

Have you ever had the thought “where did the romance go in our relationship?” Do you ever feel like you are simply going through the motions and you have become two ships passing in the night?  Well know that you are not alone.  Many times couples get inundated with life, between children, work, and life in general it is not hard to loose that spark.

For some couples this may just be for a few days, but for some it can go on for months and even years.  But it doesn’t have to be this way. Life throws us curve balls that we are not prepared for and often times we don;t even see and only later feel the sting.  Whether it is the the loss of a job, a new job, a new baby, relocating, or a teenager – there are a number of unpredictable things that can and will happen.Once life hits the relationship and reality sets in how do you keep the relationship alive?

When you first start off in the relationship everything is great, the communication is great, the sex is great, I mean everything is perfect.  You may have a few disagreements every now and then but you deal with it and move on.  After a while you begin to overlook certain things,because it just takes too much energy to point them out. It may have been something he forgot to do that you asked him to do, or it could be how she interrupts you when watching the game to talk.  These are things early in the relationship that are usually not big issues, but as life begins to bear down on us the simple things can become big things if we let them.

You may have looked up one day and realized that the man you were so in love with and couldn’t seem to get enough of, just seems to come home and sit on the couch like a log. Suddenly the fact he snores at night and chews with his mouth open annoy the heck out of you,  Or the woman you fell in love with who was oh so fly, now comes to bed in a baggy t-shirt and for some strange reasons seems to always want to talk.

How did you get so far from the awe struck couple who could stare sit up and talk for hours ? The couple who actually adored each other and actually thought each other those little imperfections where cute?  Are you really frustrated or simply exhausted?  How do you bring back the romance in the relationship while enduring the normal wear and tear of life?